While scrolling up and down my recent updates earlier today,this caught my eye.."i will not tap my friend's ex or a guy she's tapping or a guy she likes" the author,one of my close friends whose beauty is summed in a lil over 4 feet of height(this is to show that everyone regardless of your calibre is subject to the matter)reminded me that she's speaking from experience.it occurred to me how indeed her friends have chosen a temporary spark of what may or may not be love over friendship.
Her smile radiates joy in a room at any given time and her squeaky laugh genuinely suggests "i am happy".and so just by what meets the eye you'd never ever deem her a victim of 'go zubulelwa'.
in latter day,some follow 'the girl code' which constraints us from crossing boarders we ought not to for the sake of friendships.question is,is it practical?or better yet,is it worth it?
When the issue is raised,different opinions come up such as 'it depends','the girl code doesn't exist' or 'it only applies in certain cases'.my opinion; there's a bottom line to it and its simple.IF IT IS CAPABLE OF HURTING YOUR FRIEND, THINK TWICE ABOUT IT.you should know where your friend stands most of the time,if not..communication is key.you should know what hurts them and what makes them happy.
It is common instinct not to mess with your friends boyfriend,for very obvious reasons.is it okay to date your friend's ex?the matter stands to be debated.note you do not need your friend's permission to date any guy,however in respect to her ex,if you value the friendship you'll consider her feelings.and in the event that you both like the same guy,talk it over...whose chances are looking up?friendships are about sacrifices.would you feel right allowing your friend to miss an opportunity exposed to her?learn and agree that in this world we win some and lose some,and move on.its easier said than done,definitely...but where there's a will,there's a way.
in conclusion,id like to honour her for handling the situations better than many out there would have.i personally don't believe in 'the girl code'...i feel its just your sub-conscience,your values and your personal beliefs brought forward and at the end of the day,its up to you to do right.
xo,TheFashionPoet
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